I have a confession to make. Do you want to hear the habit that gets me most frustrated?
When people do not take personal responsibility for the facial reactions.
Especially in meetings.
Honestly, it actually takes more muscles to frown than it does to engage with a smile.
On topic of celebrating. One of the simplest ways to bless another person is to do it with your face.
She does not withhold what is due to another person.
She carries a generous spirit
She is generous with her words.
Elegant and inviting.
Song of Song 4
Your smile is generous and full— expressive and strong and clean. Your lips are jewel red, your mouth elegant and inviting, your veiled cheeks soft and radiant. The smooth, lithe lines of your neck command notice—all heads turn in awe and admiration!
To me that sounds like intention.
Can I suggest that the neck that commands attention is probably not where the focus comes….
It would be her face, her smile, her kindness, her words.
Free from meanness or smallness of mind.
I have always tried to think, if someone looked at my face as they were talking, would they see ‘lean in’ and support, and a championing of what they are saying?
So many people are watching how you respond in meetings and 90% of it is with your face.
When someone is speaking from a platform of any kind I have made it my business to say with my face ‘you can land your heart here, your words are safe with me’. This is not just in churhc life. I do this everywhere I go.
It’s a discipline I have developed over time.
I do think it is one way I can be super generous without much effort.
What about you?